Long distance relationship
A long distance relationship can get hard. There’s no working around that one. Putting that distance between you and your partner will give you the bare bones of your relationship, show you if you can really survive together long term, and if it’s worth it. It gets stressful, lonely, and helpless at times, but, if you can make it through you’ll be ten times stronger in the end. If you want your relationship to survive, there’s a few things you should prepare for.
You’ll learn to live independently
This reason is why I could argue every couple should go through something like a long distance relationship at least once. Many people bounce from relationship to relationship for years, without really giving their emotional life a break. While that isn’t to say there’s anything wrong with that, there’s something to be said about being capable of living a fulfilling life that doesn’t include a partner – having your own hobbies, your own friends, and your own memories. I always believe that if you can’t be happy by yourself, you’ll never successfully maintain an intimate relationship with someone else.
Yup, this one’s rough. Going on Facebook and seeing the big event that all of your friends attended with your significant other who should have a certain someone as their date. Instead, they took their best friend, and their fun selfies are smattered across your newsfeed. It can get really hard to watch your significant other live life without you.
Your time together is that much sweeter
When I lived in Europe while Chris was still in the US, the time difference hurt me more than I expected. We lived 6 time zones away, so when something stressful happened first thing in the morning that I needed to talk to him about, I couldn’t. He was asleep, and would be for another 6 hours. The extreme of our distance also meant that we couldn’t just pop over for a visit over the weekend, so we didn’t get any breaks. Now that I’ve moved back home, I can never take our time together for granted. Cuddling was something I only dreamed about (literally) for close to a year, so something as simple as touch is a Godsend!
You can’t kiss and makeup over distance! Not only are the negatives of the relationship and your significant other amplified when there’s no positives to remind you why you’re in the relationship in the first place, but the fighting drags out. Your SO can’t exactly show you how much they love you from 4,000 miles away, at least not unless they’re creative. Meanwhile, you spend your free time bitching about the situation to your friends, who all agree with you. Plus, you’ve gotten so used to living the single lifestyle…why are you together again?
Yup, long distance relationships are hard. Really, really hard. But, if you can work through it and make it out to the end with the decision that you will do whatever needs to be done to make it work out, your relationship will strengthen tenfold.